Unbounded

(3 Weeks ago)

That night, the rain was coming down like all the angels in heaven decided to take a piss at the same time. When you're in a situation like mine, you can only think in metaphors.

This time, dinner was with Carol (whom by the way ruined the shot with her waving hand), Jim, Eug, and Terence. We sat there that Saturday evening in Bizu discussing about where we are in our lives and in our personal goals.

Parental pressures. Relationships. Our priorities in life. Career advancement. Expectations, etc.

What really stuck into me was what Terence shared - on being a good provider to the people dearest to you, and how little we are earning in our age to be good providers. After all, not all of us are born with silver spoons in our mouths.

Now, we could talk about the things that comfort us in life, on finding someone attractive, someone witty, someone rich, someone you like because you have had a good long history with. Yes, they have their weights.

One cannot help but beg the question, what remains when these are taken away? After all, these things are temporary. Moods change. We think ahead. We look beyond the before and the now. We transcend things into abstractions. If there’s one thing that I’m not, it’s nostalgic.

What do you hold on to?

For me, at the core of it all is being a good person, a good person who treats others with respect.

One very good reason for becoming a good person is because you have to be a good person in order to have good – and real – friends. It is only good people who are capable of being good friends. And for the very same reason, who are capable of having good friends. Someone who constantly puts them down, who resents their weaknesses without appreciating their strengths, well, not much could be said.

In retrospect, to say that my life over the past few months has been like dessert wine, I would say, is more than apt. It was a journey to fruitful maturity.

Let me begin by saying that I have so much to thank for, to supportive friends. Who can be and are there, just because.

Cheers.